I Like Those Who Know That To Be Big You Have To Be Humble

Being humble is something more than a virtue, it’s a value that we should all practice and pass on to our children. But it seems that, nowadays, many confuse personal “greatness” with power;  and that’s where you get tied to selfishness.

There is a curious Arabic proverb that comments that “we were born as innocent creatures, then we become camels, later on into lions and, finally, we are children again” .

Human beings undertake a complex personal journey in which, at times, they aspire to acquire strength and power, and this makes us “lions”.

Later, we find that the real value lies in this most innocent soul; who is able to see life with a point of wisdom and with a great ocean of humility.

It is not exactly easy to apply the concept of humility in our daily lives.

this requires small changes and other approaches that would undoubtedly allow us to live more harmoniously.

We invite you to reflect on this.

I like those who know how to be humble, who know that being great is not going over me

There are those who conceive the word “humility” as a sense of need; of those who follow a vow of poverty to give everything to others.

Others, in turn, can join the humble being to this spiritual current in which the Buddha reminded us of the need to be noble in heart;  of letting go of material things.

Also, not clinging to people in order to be freer, more upright, more respectful.

But, it is not necessary to look for complex explanations for something so simple, so elementary.

Because being humble is not being poor;  nor having to be affiliated with a certain religion, current or spiritual practice.

It is the most common sense: humility is not thinking you are better than anyone else.

Humility is believing and practicing reciprocity.

Above all, humility is not preached, it is practiced.

Let’s go a little deeper into this concept.

who preaches and doesn’t practice

We all know some famous person, politicians or big businessmen, who preach the need to help the underprivileged, to share, to provide more respectful environments with more opportunities.

• They preach great virtues that, later, they do not realize in private (cheap labor in other countries and in poor conditions, labor exploitation or living a standard of living that does not fit what they publicly defend).

• We don’t need to go to high-level contexts. On a personal level, we all have these friends or family members who talk about how much they do for others; of everything they renounced…
  They speak of their personal greatness when; in fact, all they have offered is unhappiness to their closest relatives.

It is necessary to reflect on this and take into account that:  every word we say out loud should fit our behaviors.

We must act conscientiously and coherently.

Thus, the person humble of heart is the one who can truly “distill” this nobility of deeds, words and intentions, in which we feel really supported, respected and inspired by their behavior.

Humility can be learned

Positive psychology, led by psychologist Martin Seligman, understands and sees humility as an indispensable factor; capable of providing happiness in our lives.

We cannot forget that positive psychology emerged as a clear need to provide human beings with some adequate strategies with which to build their own well-being.

For a long time, psychology was oriented to respond to illnesses, to cure the pathological…

However, thanks to Martin Seligman, this needed shift was encouraged that invites us to “reflect” on happiness, joy, optimism…

These are all dimensions we can learn from. In order to have a more complete and balanced life, there is nothing better than assuming and practicing certain behaviors in which humility is implicit.

These would be some simple strategies:

• Recognize your mistakes and have the emotional maturity to correct them to not only provide your own well-being and growth, but to achieve that; with your change, also bring happiness to those around you.
• Learn to value what is important in your daily life. Love, friendship, affection, a sense of humour, empathy or nurturing your curiosity will give you the happiness you seek.
• Do not believe that you are better or worse than anyone else; because what you will get is for others to avoid you.
• Enjoy the simplest and most elementary things around you. Look at those around you and seek to learn from everything that involves you;  including people there.
• Be a good role model for your children, teach them to be humble, to understand their emotions, to connect with their peers.